“It’s happening”, was all I could think to say when I saw the obvious subject line of an email on my phone. Cassie didn’t understand what I said at first so I repeated, “It’s happening NOW”. I [being the nerdy father already] quickly set up the tripod and camera. This was the moment we had been waiting for. Our case worker sent us pictures and a medical report and we were supposed to say “yes” or “no” to proceed with the adoption.
The video below is our reaction to seeing pictures of a sweet little 10 month old boy named Bruk!
We fell in love right away and are by all means going to pursue adoption of this little guy. The next step is to wait for the agency to set up a court date in Ethiopia. We don’t know how long that will take but we hope to see him at least by this Fall. As for pictures, we aren’t allowed to post any online just yet, but we can sure find a way to get some to you if your anxious to see him!
We are so thrilled. He is the most beautiful kid we have ever seen!
We aren’t going to say it. Because someone needs to invent a two word phrase that conveys the kind of mind-bending gratitude we are experiencing right now. Frankly, a couple extra exclamation marks or long strings of adverbs or ALL CAPS before the words, “thank you” just doesn’t seem to cut it. When we got up on the stage and looked out it was as if someone had hired extras to fill in the open spots just to encourage us. But, looking around it was clear that those familiar faces were there to see this adoption become a reality. Guess what? You gave generously. Over $8,000 was brought in last night! That money put us about $500 over the amount we needed to continue with this adoption.
We want you all to know that we saw God move in Cary this weekend [and in many ways before the night even began]. We walked out of the building on Saturday night exhausted, overwhelmed, blessed. Even though it isn’t enough to express how we feel, we are “ok” with saying thank you and will probably say it to you many more times this year.
So here it goes…. ahem…mmhmm…
WE ARE SO VERY VERY VERY THANKFUL!!!!!!!!!!
Hey! Don’t knock it till you invent the new way of saying it.
If you weren’t able to make it out we will post some pictures from the event in a couple days. It seriously felt like we were walking into some fancy couples’ wedding reception. Still in shock.
It looked like everyone else had a good time too. See if you can find your face down there!
It’s the FINAL day before the silent auction, and we are giving away one more prize package!
[Day One winner: Karen King!!!]
[Day Two winner: Scott Hutcheson!!!]
Adoption T-shirt, 16 oz. tumbler, Orphanology book, Music by Kim Merida, 2 McDonald’s extra value meals, Accessory bags, AND Tanas hair cut!
Contest Rules:It’s simple. Leave a comment at the bottom of this post. Any comment will do, like “hey, you guys are cool” or “I want to win!”. Multiple comments will not increase your chances of winning. We will email the randomly selected winner the following morning.
Can’t wait to see everyone at the silent auction tomorrow!
For three days leading up to the silent auction, we are giving away some free stuff!
[Day One’s winner: Karen King!!!]
Free “Roo-cup”* with 40-free refills AND an adoption t-shirt!
*If you didn’t know, a “Roo-cup” is a delightful little plastic chalice that gives the holder the power to obtain 25-cent refills at Kangaroo gas-stations all Summer long.
1 roll of quarters = 40 refills 🙂
Contest Rules:It’s simple. Leave a comment at the bottom of this post. Any comment will do, like “hey, you guys are cool” or “I want to win!”. You can win each day but multiple comments on the same day will not increase your chances of winning. We will email the randomly selected winner the following morning.
For three days leading up to the silent auction, we are going to give away some free stuff!
Free adoption t-shirt & $10 Sola Coffee gift certificate!
Contes Rules:It’s simple. Leave a comment at the bottom of this post. Any comment will do, like “hey, you guys are cool” or “I want to win!”. You can win each day but multiple comments on the same day will not increase your chances of winning. We will email the randomly selected winner the following morning.
Check back Thursday and Friday for more giveaways!
What is the appropriate amount of expectation as we look forward to important events in this life?
I don’t know. But, that is what I’ve been wrestling with lately.
A few weeks ago I truly expected that we would have a referral by now. My hope was that by the time the silent auction came around, we would have a face and a name to celebrate. We would be able to share with everyone our “next step” in the process and be excited because we can finally start getting to know our child. We would know a gender, age and how healthy they are. We could pick out the colors for their room. We could start arranging things to prepare for the day we bring them home. Drew and I could hug and smile and have a dance party for being in “the phase”. The phase, I guess, is when we get to dream and make plans for a specific child. Maybe it’s like getting an ultrasound. We are next on the list and that is so good, yet I battle against my heart as we wait.
I am realizing that even though these things above are not bad, the overwhelming expectation for them to happen is stealing my joy. Expectations can be a really good thing, but right now I am living for my expectations. All I want is for those things to happen. I want to know the color of our child’s eyes or if they are left or right handed. I want to know when they will be “ours”.
But is this everything?
My hopes and dreams for this child help me get through some of the sad moments. Yet, the most important thing is not that I get to have it all put together in a pretty little box with a bow on top. God knows the plans He has for our child and for us. I trust Him and that brings me a great amount of peace. God is not only good in the good times, He is near and faithful right now even though I’m not “getting what I want”.
My hope is not in what I can plan and figure out and make good. My hope is in a God who I do believe is taking care of us and taking care of our child each moment. Besides, if I keep living entirely for the “next step” in life I will miss worlds of beauty and joy in the moment.
I’m tired of unchecked expectations stealing my joy. There is so much more that I have to live for and there is so much more than the sadness I feel today.
We are so honored that our friends and family are rallying to do this silent auction for us. And we are excited that you found out about it!
As you may already know, this auction is an effort to help us offset the cost associated with international adoption.
So, what is our heart for adoption?
To put it in a nutshell; we love Jesus. It is so obvious in God’s Word that he cares about us more than we can imagine. And His love is often demonstrated through rescuing orphans in their distress (John 14:18, James 1:27, Deuteronomy 10:18, Isaiah 1:17) . We have fallen in love with our God and His love is what compels us to continue on this journey toward adoption.
We were so encouraged by the constant flow of friends, family and even strangers who came out to YoLo last Sunday. For three hours people filtered through to buy frozen yogurt on a cold and rainy Sunday afternoon. Who does that? Apparently YOU do.
Something else super exciting happened last week. We finally made it on the official waiting families list for our adoption agency! In addition to this, we are also NEXT on the list for a referral. This means that we should be expecting our agency to call us in the next few weeks with information about the child they will match with us. Adoption, we are learning, is never neatly laid out in front of you. So, even though we are certainly moving forward, there is no certainty that this will happen soon. We are not trying to be pessimistic. We just want to give you a realistic view of what is ahead of us to guide your prayers for us and this little one. With all of that said, we are celebrating this progress right now!
To celebrate finishing 10 months of paperwork and being on the waiting families list…we ate some steak.
A BIG thank you to the Ross family who gave us an Angus Barn gift certificate about 8 months ago. We decided that we would save it for the day we got on the waiting list for this kiddo. The certificate has been sitting in our coupon bowl ever since then and many times we have wanted to use it. Well, we used it last night and it was AMAZING! The date couldn’t have gone any better.